8 Ways to Gain More Confidence When Life Gets in the Way


A lot of people think that confidence is something that you are born with.  I certainly don’t think that’s the case but although some people are naturally more confident than others, I believe hard work and persistence will certainly pay off when it comes to building your confidence.  Indeed, having a lot of confidence has its benefits, most notably, a belief in yourself and your abilities, getting what you want from your relationships and career and improving your general well being.  Below are my top tips on how to gain more confidence so that you can push yourself towards your goals.

Surround yourself with confident people-what is it that you lack confidence in? Maybe it’s your interview skills or public speaking for example.  Whatever it may be, you may wish to seek a mentor so that you can learn from them and their experiences.  By doing so, you will feel more confident in your abilities as a result.  So go out there and seek your potential mentors-there are many ways to do this:  it could be one of your colleagues, someone you meet at a conference or networking event or you can even reach out to potential mentors online. When I first started out, I did not have a clue about website design or social media strategies, let alone blogging.  Confidence wasn’t want came to mind when these topics came up.  However, if it wasn’t for the mentors I looked up to (Michelle Gardner from Making Sense of Cents and Chris Peach from the Money Peach for example),  I wouldn’t be where I am today.

Practice-this is pretty self-explanatory.  The only way you are going to get more confident is by lots of practice.  Say for example, you really lack the confidence when it comes to going to a job interview.  In this case, you may wish to practice some example questions with a friend or family member beforehand and in turn, prevent any awkwardness or hesitations.  In short, gaining more confidence would become easier if you practice.

Get healthier-that means joining a gym if possible and making exercise a regular part of your regime. The healthier you look, the more confident you look and feel too.  Make exercise a borderline obsession.  If you have never exercised before, you may wish to have a look at this beginner gym program and also this simple and effective home body workout.  Of course, supplementing a healthy eating program goes hand in hand with a strict exercise regime.  In this case, control your calorific intake and review your diet to limit saturated fats, sugar, food high in preservatives and anything containing empty calories.

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Take care of your appearance-looking the part can go a long way when learning how to be confident. It will help you look more confident even if you don’t feel it. Go through a grooming checklist: get a new hairstyle, if you wear glasses, consider getting a cool pair of designer frames or ditch them altogether for contact lenses, get some free dermatology advice from your local department store and if your clothes no longer fit you, consider replacing these with well-fitting clothes that best suit your build.

Develop a positive mental attitude-this is the thing that holds most people back when it comes to gaining confidence. Having the belief in what you are doing will massively provide you with the kick up the backside when it comes to gaining confidence.  Having a positive mental attitude would push you towards bigger and more ambitious goals, as well as negate any limiting beliefs.  Try looking at yourself in the mirror and saying to yourself ‘you are amazing, you stand out, and everyone loves and respects you.  You deserve the best that the world has to offer and the world is your oyster’.    Read this as many times as you like and say it out loud if you wish.  Hold on to that feeling…….

Get rid of your limiting beliefs-limiting beliefs are one of the biggest things that are holding you back. I can’t do this.  I can’t do that.  You can achieve anything you want by negating your limiting beliefs along with a little dedication and persistence.  Rather than think ‘I can’t do this’, develop the mindset of ‘how can I achieve this’.

Develop positive body language-they say that first impressions count, and this is certainly the case with body language. Try the wall stance exercise -stand up against the wall with the back of your head, shoulders, heels and butt touching the wall.  Now move away from the wall and walk around in the same posture.  Now commit yourself to this posture and realign yourself if you catch yourself slouching, even whilst sitting.  A firm handshake, along with smiling is also important as they both show that you are confident. Smiling when you are on the phone is especially important because the person on the other end of the line can tell by the way that your voice sounds.  Give it a try!

Listen to some of your favorite music-this is one of my favorite strategies. I find that putting on my favorite music before I get to work or train certainly gives me a confidence boost so that I can tackle my day or training session ahead.

What strategies do you like to implement to make yourself more confident?

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